The trouble is - excuse my clichés - as people grow older, non-artists, that is, they do have to steel themselves so much, forget so much and try to pretend everything’s all right so much. They are afraid, probably rightly, that poetry - any art - if they take it hard, might upset them - so they pretend they like it while at the same time they resist it absolutely.
Elizabeth Bishop, in a letter to Robert Lowell dated June 17, 1963.